5 Signs You Have A “Frenemy”

Most people have what can be described as a “frenemy” among their group of friends.

 

Frenemy is a word coined from two different words: Friend and Enemy. It means a person who looks and acts like a friend, but they are really having no warm feelings of friendship towards you. It might be hard to spot a frenemy since they disguise themselves pretty well, but if these signs below describes someone you know, then you should keep an extra eye on them.

They obsessively compete with you: Healthy competition between friends is fine, since one of the jobs of a good friend is to push you to be better. But when you have that friend who wants all the attention wherever you go, or is obsessed with getting a better version of anything you have, like a better looking boy/girlfriend, more expensive gadget, car, etc, then it has become unhealthy. It means they define themselves according to how much better than you they are and are always ready to show this off.

They are jealous of you: It is natural to feel envious of what others have since this is something you would like too, but be careful when this looks like full-blown jealousy, then it is best to be careful. Instead of being happy for you, you notice their resentment when something good happens for you. They are hardly ever there to celebrate, and even when they do, they are the first to comment on the negative aspect of whatever it is you have achieved.

They are more interested in bad times: Your friends should be there for you during challenging times, but this does not mean they become too focused in it that it looks like they enjoy hearing about your downfall. You will notice this if they are so interested in the details of what happened to you, and they might even become so enthralled that they have you repeat your ordeal to them over and over again. Instead of instantly showing support, all they want to do is revel in the details of your downfall, because this, secretly, is something they long for.

They talk negatively about you: When you have those friends that seem to relish telling others only negative things about you, then they are most likely frenemies. They want others to see you the same way they do so they do not share any positive aspect of your life/character. They basically gossip about you and cannot wait to badmouth you to others.

They make no sacrifices for you: You know people who truly care about you when you have seen instances where they sacrifice something for you. It could be to cancel something going on in their life to be with you during important times in yours, or they let go of opportunities simply to be a good friends. Sacrifices like these are hard to miss and hard to fake. If you have a friend who will never inconvenience him/herself for something you need, then they most likely do not have your best interest at heart.

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